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Websters says decisiveness is having the power or quality of deciding; resolute; determined.

But above all, my brethren, do not swear, either by heaven or by earth or with any other oath. But let your “Yes” be “Yes,” and your “No,” “No,” lest you fall into judgment -James 5:12

I’ve often heard this scripture quoted with messages about keeping your word.  It definitely applies.  Recently, I’ve come to think of it in a new way.

This was a recent conversation I had

Me:  “Mrs. So-and-so called and wants to know if you want to work on Tuesday”

Other Person:  “Oh.  Well, I don’t know.  I guess” 

Me (thinking to myself, this is a “yes” or “no” question): “Are you doing anything on Tuesday?”

Other Person:  “No…I just…well, I guess”

Me (not wanting to force anyone to a job they don’t want to do0:  “Do you want to do the job?”

Other Person:  “Okay, I guess I’ll do it”.

As I consider the conversation, I ask myself, “Is this person not committed? Or just indecisive?”  Then I began to consider other conversations with this person.  They are all very similar.  This person had difficulty making decisions.  We need decisiveness.  We need to be “yes” or “no” people.  There are very few grey areas in life; very few fences that can successfully be straddled.  Make a decision and stick by the decision.  If someone asks you a question, look them in the eye and say “yes” or say “no”; stop “guessing” and decide.