Discernment is defined as the quality of being able to grasp and comprehend what is obscure (http://www.merriam-webster.com/)
If it grasping to comprehend the obscure, they why do people assume they can discern situations and people by observing actions and emotions?
True discernment (speaking of the gift of the Spirit) is when God reveals the situation or condition of a person’s heart through the Holy Spirit.
We tend to think people are spiritual because they cry when a certain song is played or they always go to the alter at church. We think people are spiritual and holy because of the outward appearance or actions. These things do not define what is holy or spiritual. God made every human being to be spiritual.
Pastor Randy Phillips had a series on holiness. He defined the word holy as “being set apart for the Master’s use”. If you are a Christian, set apart of His use, then you are holy. When you begin to realize you are holy, you will begin to make decisions that align with that belief. Every Christian is holy.
This goes along with Graham Cooke’s message. When you know and believe who God says you are, then your actions must begin to align.
Back to discernment. If you are asking God for gifts of discernment, you must stop relying on what you see and listen for what God is communicating. We look for outward signs. We look for outward signs of holiness. We look for outward signs of emotion. God knows the intents of the heart. Observation and revelation are NOT the same thing.