Usually the Momlog is light-hearted and funny. Today I’m going to take on a more serious topic.
Preface this by sharing that our family is Christ-centered. We are Christians. We not only attend services on Sundays we pray, read our Bibles, teach our kids about Jesus. We believe Jesus is real. We believe that God has power today. (Having said that, you are welcome to have your own thoughts, opinions, ideas, etc about this. I welcome comments, questions, discussion and even disagreement…I do not welcome shaming, name calling, or putting down people. )
The boy has had night terrors on and off for a while. At one point I noticed that it happened quite a lot when he had been over stimulated around bedtime. Or when he was very tired. We aren’t super rigid about bedtime but we keep a schedule.
Some of the timeline on these events were overlapping. Our boy is 9 1/2 now. I first noticed the night terrors around age 5. He kept telling me about a bad “farmer” outside his window. (I wrote about this in another Momlog). It turned out he was trying to say “Transformer”. My husband, is not as conservative about what he allows our son to watch: I am error on the side of conservative. He had allowed our son to watch part of a Transformers movie. It clearly made an impression on our son. I prayed for him and ask that God would remove all of his memories about the show.
I monitor what our kids watch. I do not allow shows that include witchcraft (think “Sophia the First” ), disrespecting attitudes (think Spongebob…I’m sorry, I despise this show or any of the teenie bopper Disney sitcom shows – I have strong opinions about how parents are portrayed in these shows), zombies (or any type of death culture). Yes, I am conservative. We do watch educational shows (think PBS, WildKratts, Odd Squad, etc). There is something to be said for the saying “garbage in, garbage out.” Kids will think about what we allow them to put in their mind. In our home, we talk about self-monitoring and not watching things that mom and dad do not allow even when mom and dad are not around. Yes, we have Netflix. Yes, we have Amazon Prime.
We love going to the movies. Most movies we watch before taking our kids to see them. Yes, this NOT convenient. Parenting is not always convenient.
I wrote all of that to tell this story.
In the past 5 or 6 months, I had gotten a little relaxed on some of my own convictions. I wasn’t watching programs with my kids but allowing them to watch some shows on their own. I tend to like the Lego shows and Starwars show. I wasn’t monitoring those shows.
My son loves Legos. He had been asking me about some Legos called Bionicles. In general I like Legos because they promote creativity and learning to follow directions and build things is good for young minds. I looked at these Bionicles and thought, “Eewh.” They are kind of creepy. I’m not a big fan of children’s toys with skulls on them (see comment above…promotes a death culture). He asked if he could watch Bionicles on Demand (I think it’s a Cartoon Network show). I said “yes”. At Christmas, He asked for Lego Bionicles. Being that I’m his mom and he is a great kid who rarely asks for anything, I wanted to get him what he wanted. I found some on eBay. I bought him one.
We had our Christmas a few days early as we were traveling for Christmas. He was super excited about his Bionicle. Two days later, by Christmas, he was having night terrors again.
No, I didn’t put any of this together until weeks later.
Here is what happened. I woke up around 4 a.m. I could hear my son in his room screaming. Normally, I would get up and go wake him up, sending him to the bathroom, basically breaking his REM cycle. This night, I just started praying, asking God to send His peace into his room and calm his dreams. Almost immediately, he calmed down.
When I was younger (in my 20s) I had serious night terrors and would wake up in a cold sweat. Once or twice I would wake myself up praying. Even in the past 10 years, on occasion, I have woken my husband up praying because I was praying in my dream. When I have had night terrors, I have recognized a spirit of fear that I have somehow allowed in by something I read or watched. I had somehow opened a spiritual door that allowed a bad spirit into my mind.
As I layed in bed praying for my son, I asked God, if we had any open doors that were causing these frequent night terrors. IMMEDIATELY, I saw the Bionicle that my son had been carrying around everywhere since Christmas. I was bummed. How am I going to handle this? Deep in my heart, I want the best for my kids and I do not want to have any spirits in my house other than the Holy Spirit (God’s Spirit). As I lay awake, I decided to investigate these Bionicles (Thank God for iPhones and google).
As I read the story behind the Bionicles (on Wikapedia), I realized there was a “spiritual” story behind the toy that does not align with the Bible or our belief system. It seems innocent enough…but is it?
I prayed, asking God for wisdom. (James 1:5).
The next day I talked to my son about the toy and the show (he had only watched a few episodes). We prayed as a family together later that day and gave our son some choice about giving up the toy. I did agree to get him a replacement of some type in the future. He gladly gave up the toy. He had another dream a few night later…then I found the box to the toy and also got rid of that. He has been sleeping soundly.
Some children are more spiritually sensetive than other kids. Some kids just manifest differently. (I banned Disney’s “The Little Mermaid” for a while because my daughter had been watching it over and over and then she was yelling at her dad – Ariel yells at her dad very disrespectfully in that movie. As soon as she stopped watching it and we explained that her behavior wasn’t honoring to her dad, she stopped yelling at him. She’s sassy and doesn’t need any thing pushing her to be more sassy).
I am also thanking God that He doesn’t remember any of the dreams he had and he didn’t even wake up.
The Bible says this:
Dear friends, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world. 2 This is how you can recognize the Spirit of God: Every spirit that acknowledges that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is from God, 3 but every spirit that does not acknowledge Jesus is not from God. This is the spirit of the antichrist, which you have heard is coming and even now is already in the world.
4 You, dear children, are from God and have overcome them, because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world. – I John 4:1-4
We need not fear. God in us is greater than any evil spirit.
Pray and ask God. The good news is, God loves your kids even more than you do; He does! He wants them to be safe, feel loved, have confidence, grow in kindness and be a light in a dark world. He doesn’t want thier minds filled with darkness.
I’m all for real. My kids are adopted. They know they are adopted and why…there is plenty of darkness in the world without adding scary movies, creepy shows and toys, ghost stories, zombies, etc.
If your kids are experiencing night terrors, there are certainly physical issues you can check out. I’m not discounting all physical issues. There are times when it’s a spiritual issue.
Questions to ask:
- Has anything happened to my child recently (These can also be a result of being molested, bullied, fearful – prayer can also help with any of these issues but other steps may need to be taken.)
- Have any new toys or shows been introduced? (check those things out)
- Have there been any big life changes going on in my child’s life? (Are you in the middle of a divorce? Has someone died recently?)
- Have you moved into a new house? (spirits will linger until you pray and tell them to leave, in Jesus name. John 4:7 says, “Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. 8 Come near to God and he will come near to you. “)
Talk to your child and find out if anything unusual has been going on. Pray for them. Take them to the doctor if you feel it’s a physical issue.
Remember, God made you the mom (or the dad). God believes you are the best mom (or dad) for your child. Those gut feelings are most often God communicating with us.
God Bless you and thank you for taking the time to read this.