The Blog in the Blog


I’ve been reading more than writing lately…well, that is, in between changing diapers and feeding baby girl.  The Boy’s adoption is suppose to be complete in the next month.  Yes, I will post pictures since legally, I’ll be allowed to post pictures once his adoption will be  complete.

What have I been reading you might ask?  Well, mostly ministry stuff like Bob Hamp’s new book, “Think Differently: LIive Differently”.  and Andy Standley’s Book “Communicating for Change”.   Good stuff.  I’m going to try out some of the things I’ve learned on y’all.

So here goes….Let me know what you think.  I really want my readers to tell me what my main point was without me saying, “This is my main point”.  Here is the blog in the blog.

“I’m going to teach them a lesson”.  Yes, I have said those words or something to that effect more than once.  I am betting some of you have said this a few times too.  I heard someone says recently, “She decided to teach them a lesson”.  All parties involved were seemingly adults. It sounds like a “teacher to student” statement or a “parent to child”  statement but in this situation the people involved were all adults.  When I heard it, I thought, “How many times have I said or thought the same thing?”  Thankfully, not so much lately.   I considered how arrogant the words sounded.  I considered my own arrogance in uttering such words.  How many times have you thought it or said “I’m going to teach this person a lesson” ?  It’s an easy trap to fall into….the trap of believing it is our responsibility to teach someone a lesson.  As I considered the words and the arrogance behind the words I realized those words held so much more than just arrogance….what those words were really saying is “I am going to take on the function of the Holy Spirit in the lives of this person (or persons) and teach them what I think they need to learn”.  That is so much more than just arrogant…it’s sooo wrong.  Have you ever had someone try to “teach you a lesson”?  It’s not fun for anyone.  If you think about it, when you set out to be the Holy Spirit in someone else’s life what you are saying is, “I’ve got it all together so I’m available to help you”.  Jesus said, (In Matthew 7), “And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye?  Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye?”   I love that Jesus used a splinter and a plank in the eye to describe the situation.  Why?  Because anything in our eye effects our vision.  A splinter in the eye changes how we see things…at least a little and a plank in the eye changes how we see things in a BIG way.    In both cases, our vision is impaired and our perception is skewed; something in the eye changes how we see things. And skewed perception effects every part of our lives.When you have gossip in your life, you believe everyone is talking about you (they aren’t….newsflash…you are not the center of the universe, or your church or in the lives of other people).  When you have bitterness in your life, you see every thing bitterly even in the lives of others.  Let’s get our vision back on course.  Before you start trying to “teach” people around you a “lesson” you need to start listening to the Holy Spirit in your own life.  I am releasing you from being the Holy Spirit (because sometimes we need to hear that we are released from something).  How about this…Jesus said to consider the plank in your own eye.  Let’s do that.  Let each one of us focus on what the Holy Spirit wants us to learn instead of us trying to teach others.  If each one of us focused on what God wants to do in our lives and what we should be learning, everyone around us would be effected.  Not only would our lives change for the better but the lives of others would be changed as well because our lives are intertwined.  And believe me, when God works on me what He does effects those around me.  When we are focused (there is that vision thing again) on God and what He is doing in our lives, we don’t have time to “teach anyone else a lesson” because we are so busy learning what God wants us to learn.    When we are focused on Him, He removes the splinters and the planks, He “rights” our vision, heals us and we begin to see clearly once again.  




I am suppose to be working on my book project.  I’m at Chic-fil-a.  I wrote my first book at Barnes and Nobel in Mobile Alabama.  I spent hours in that cafe.  They didn’t have Wi-Fi at the time so I couldn’t get on the internet….that was before I started using for a lot of my Bible Study (I was looking up things in the Strong’s Concordance…which I sometimes still do but is good because the Greek and Hebrew are right at my fingertips).  I did most of the editing for my first book at my sister’s house in West Texas….during naptime or late at night.

Here’s the thing…if I stay at home, I will find so many other things to do…like laundry and dishes.  There are always distractions.

Now, I am just hoping to get a few pages typed out in this noisy Chic-fil-a while keeping any eye on The Boy through the glass while he is playing.  And he keeps trying to tell me things through the glass even though, I can’t hear him at all.  I forgot that school is out this week so there are lots of kids running around in here.

I know it took a while to write the previous book but this seems to be taking forever.

The Hubs is a songwriter.  He may not write a song every day and some songs he writes get edited and tweaked over time but often he just spits them out.  Seriously, last Wednesday he woke up with a course in his head.  I left him alone in the house for two hours and when I came home he had a whole song hammered out.

After last week, I know one thing for sure…I have to get more writing time in.

I keep telling myself  “Just do it!!!”

All you writers and would-be writers…tell me where do you write and what inspires you?



Write about what you know.

Write about what you are passionate about.

Write the beginning of your story.  Write the end of your story.

Write your way to the healing.  Write your way through the healing.  Write until you heal.


Write who you were.  Write who you are. Write who you are becoming.

Write when you are busy. Write when you are bored.

Write when you have five minutes.  Write when you have five hours.

Write when it is loud, when there is music, when there is chaos.  Write when it is silent.  Write when your husband is snoring next to you.

Write when you feel everything.  Write when you feel nothing.






Wanted to share something that has been working for me.  When I am working on a project, like I am these days,  it swirls around in my brain and in my spirit.  I will often get ideas at random times.  I’ve been jotting down ideas in this little notebook.  And then when I have a few hours, I will put the idea in my book.  I may not expand on it at the time but it is in there.

Big thing to remember (because I’m one of those people who will write random notes on the back of a receipt) is to expand enough on the thought so when you go back to it you will know what you meant.  Also, no receipts, get a little notebook.

Another great tip I read recently on the website is….write!  Don’t worry about editing or reviewing, just write there will be time for edits later.

So, back to my book project.  (I actually have two more blog ideas swirling right now but sometimes, you have to make yourself do the writing for the project that is in your spirit!)



I get more writing done when I am “out of the house”.  When I am at home, I am thinking about all that I need to “get done” and I start piddling around.  A couple of days a week, the Boy goes to school and I have about two hours to do whatever I want/need to do.

I was going to the the Starbucks stores in our area.  I kept running into friends and ended up not getting anything done.  So I started going to Target.  Our Target has a Starbucks in it and it is usually empty and they finally got WiFi so life is good.

Except now, I have become friends with the barista…and we are chatting and I’m not writing.

Does anyone have a cabin in the woods that I could go hide out it?

Divine Appointments


There is a quote that I’ve heard Oprah say (I’m not sure it’s her quote or someone else’s) she says that “Success is being prepared when opportunity knocks”.  Or I think I’ve heard it said that “Success is when preparation meets opportunity.”  I’m not sure I’ve ever been super successful but one day I will be.  No matter what, I want to be prepared when God sends me opportunities.

In the meantime, I want to show up on time to every “Divine Appointment” that God arranges for me.

I have a good friend…I would call her a lifelong friend.  You know the friend you may not see for a while but then when you do see them, you start back where left off.  I stopped by to see her a few weeks ago because I had to take the boy to a doctor’s appointment and we were “in town”.  Then she called me a few days ago  and we talked about a concert the Hubs and I were planning on going to and she decided to join us. I also invited a new friend of mine from church, Kim and she brought her niece and nephew.

We took off from our house tonight with an Expedition full of people.  As you must know by now, the journey is half the fun.  We had a great time and my friends and I found out we all have something in common.  Of course, me and my lifelong friend knew but we didn’t know about Kim’s interest.

Kim had commented that I write on my blog quiet frequently and we all laughed that often it’s at night; late at night.  This is true…it is when the house finally settles down….plus, I am without a doubt a “night” person.  Then we happened to mention a writers conference that we attended and Kim expressed interest.

As it turns out, my new friend Kim does a little writing too.  I thought that I was drawn to her because she prays which is probably one of the reasons (Don’t worry, I also have very good friends I was drawn to because I liked their shoes or they liked my shoes…I consider everyone my friend until they prove otherwise) but we have more in common than just prayer.

By the time the evening was over, we decided to work on our writing and meet up in a few weeks to discuss and share.

I am so EXCITED!  I’ve been wanted to get some writing together for a new book project but I NEED deadlines!!  Seriously!

The thing is, writers love getting together to bounce ideas off of each other…it’s  like a foody in a fine restaurant; we salivate; our creative juices begin to stir up.  When you throw the Holy Spirit into the mix…well, then you get a Narnia and a Lord of the Rings.  (Little known fact, Tolkin and C.S. Lewis were in a writers group together)

I know beyond a doubt that our little roadtrip was more about the journey than the concert and it was more about God connecting people than it was about fun (although it was fun…the most fun I’ve had in a while).  I love it when God’s plan comes together.

Here is to new friendships and old ones and stirring our gifts up!



Many of my friends tell me they are reading my blog and sometimes ask me questions. 

Feel free to ask…In fact, post your questions here and I will try to answer them.

One questions I had,  from my childhood friend, Shelby, was, “How is it the boy peed on you?”  I guess she didn’t get the logistics. 

Here’s the story…it was really my fault.  I had striped the wet clothes and underwear off of him and was he was standing, I was on my knees (to be face to face) and I was scolding him.  Apparently, he wasn’t finished peeing.  So there you have it…the rest of the story.

Seriously, feel free to ask me questions…it helps me write better.