I am revisiting this post because I’ve noticed it is very popular (gets lot’s of visits). When you finish reading this one, also take a look at these two post on Spiritual Stepsons (click here and here).
Malachi 4:6 (New King James Version)
And he will turn
The hearts of the fathers to the children,
And the hearts of the children to their fathers,
Lest I come and strike the earth with a curse.”
If you haven’t read my previous post, “Love is…” you might want to read it. I’ve been thinking about the “orphan spirit” since I wrote about in that post.
Spiritual orphans are the result of several things. The Bible indicates that when father’s and children’s hearts are turned from each other, a curse can result. I am not sure about you, but I think we are there. One of the great things about God is we can start over. The church has allowed the attitudes and ideas of the world to infiltrate it. With divorce and unwed mother rates soaring, western cultures have begun to embrace the idea that fathers as disposable and unnecessary. Many individuals will live their entire lives without a healthy relationship with their father or a father figure. Fathers have let down their children; they have abandoned and not pursued their own children. Another attitude we have seen reflected in the church is that the “younger generation” with all their firy passion is somehow more valuable than the deeply rooted generations that have gone before them. When society began shuffling the elderly off to nursing homes, the attitude in our churches changed as well. Most churches market to younger people. Meanwhile, our older generation has thrown in the towel. they no longer want to invest in a generation that devalued them. Rejection begets rejection.
I want to address how to handle the orphans spirit but first we must identify it.
Here are some characteristics of the orphan spirit:
- Unable to put down roots in a church or change churches frequently
- Always on the look out for something bigger and better
- Feeling based faith (if it feels good, feels right, etc then I will follow it).
- Need recognition
- Easily offended
- Feelings of abandonment even when one has not been abandoned
- Attitude of “No one is going to tell me what to do”
- Attitude of “I know…” (unteachable)
- Survivalist Mentality always looking out for oneself
- Never truly comfortable in the presence of anointed spiritual father
- Reject others before they can be rejected
So what to do? My thought have been on how to pray for individuals who have an “orphan spirit”. I also want to address what to do if you believe you have an orphan spirit.
If you are dealing with individuals who are functioning under and orphan spirit then you must pray. Prayer is pretty much my answer to everything, well, it isn’t the answer so much as it puts me in touch with the God who answers. Allow God to direct your prayers. Here one example of a pray:
I plead the Blood of Jesus upon (insert name) and I bind every spirit of an orphan from their lives. I loose and release the Holy Spirit to hover over them to bring healing and deliverance. Lord, you are their Father and I pray that they will receive the spirit of adoption (Romans 8:15) and that they will call You, “Abba”. Lord I pray that healing will come to every area of their hearts. Where their heart has become stony, I pray that you would make it a heart of flesh (Ezekiel 11:19). Lord, I ask that you will bring committed spiritual fathers into their lives to cover them in prayer, to give them direction and to love them. God, please help this spiritual father to have the mind and heart of Christ. In Jesus name, Amen.
When praying for spiritual orphans, it is very likely that you are one of the only people praying for them. They have very little spiritual covering because they constantly reject it. Keep praying for them even when you do not see results. Most of these individuals do love Jesus but they have been deeply hurt and are functioning out of woundedness that has allowed the enemy a foothold.
If you believe you have been functioning from an orphan spirit then you have an exciting journey in your future. Once you realize this is you, you cannot stay where you are…you must make changes. Healing and deliverance require action on your part. You must “walk it out”. What this means, is sometimes you will have to just “stick it out” even when things do not “feel” good or even when you are getting negative feedback. You must take responsibility for your past actions and attitudes that have led you to the point of becoming a spiritual orphan. You must find a church (a healthy Biblical church), join that church and make a commitment to the community and leadership of that house. You must commit yourself to communicating (listening to and sharing) with your spiritual leadership. You must be prepared to receive correction and direction from your spiritual father. Love is correction as much as it is affirmation. This prayer is a good way to start:
Jesus, please forgive me for embracing the attitudes, actions and heart of an orphan. Your heart and desire for me is that I am a healthy part of a spiritual family. I break all soul ties I have formed with an orphan spirit in Jesus name. I bind my body, heart and spirit to God’s will and purpose for me, in Jesus name. Lord, I ask that you would heal my mind and my heart from the spirits of abandonment, rejection and fatherlessness. God please help me to have the heart of a son and please help me to turn my heart toward my spiritual father. Lord, please help me to pray for and support the spiritual fathers you have placed in my life. Please help me to model the attitude and heart that Jesus had toward You as He walked this earth. Lord, please reveal to me all areas in my life that have been wounded. Please heal those areas and make me whole. Lord I ask that you would help me to forgive everyone who I looked to as a spiritual father or leader who wounded me or failed me. Lord, please help me to commit to a church and spiritual father. In Jesus Name, Amen.
Being a spiritual orphan is a choice. God has ordained some mighty spiritual fathers. There are no Lone rangers in the Kingdom and there are no orphans. If you feel you are either then it is time to align yourself with God and His purpose.
If you are called to be a spiritual father…then never, never, never give up.
(If this post interested you but didn’t quiet describe your situation, check out this post https://cbgrace.wordpress.com/2010/11/01/son-or-stepson/ )